How to do Relationships the Right Way

Your entire life is about relationships.  All of it - family, work, friends, all of it. Jesus said the most important things in life were your relationship to God and your relationship to others. Good relationships are no accident. It will take courage to have them. Here are four courageous things you can do. 

1. Initiate some relationships.

It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and initiate relationships that you know you need.  

Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.   

It takes courage because you will have to humble yourself and admit you need others to help you.  Take yourself and your family to church. Get marriage counseling. Join with others who need help with addictions. It takes courage.

2. Nurture those relationships.

If you do not put the effort to care for the relationships you have, they will decline. It takes courage to say no to some things so you can say yes to caring for the relationships that are most important. Galatians 5:13-14 For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: "You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”

The Marriage Decline:

First year - She sneezes and you get a kleenex and call a doctor.

Years later - She sneezes and you yell at her, “Why don’t you gargle instead of barking like a seal!!?

3. Restore some relationships.

Colossians 3: 13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Some people have been holding on to a grudge so long it is like  a pet to them. When the Apostle Peter denied Jesus in His most critical time, it was Jesus who went to Peter and restored the relationship. He did not wait for Peter to come to Him.

4. Cut off some relationships. 

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character." 

That is a law as sure as gravity. Corrupt means to erode away. Like termites eating away at a house, relationships with some people erodes your character. Have you seen your character hurt by hanging out with certain people?  Walk away from them!