4 More Steps For A Successful Marriage

    Is your marriage what you hoped it would be? Are you constantly fighting with and disappointed in your spouse? There is a better way!

    In the Garden of Eden God said about Adam, “It is not good that the man should be alone." If we were created for a relationship with a spouse, why do so many people have such a hard time having a good marriage? It's because the husband and the wife aren't fulfilling their respective roles.

    In Ephesians 5:22-33, the Apostle Paul lays out the requirements for the husband and the wife. For one reason or another, people don't follow them. If BOTH parties actually do what is required, your marriage would be great!

Wives

1.  (v. 22) Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord

Modern women don't seem to like to hear this, but I say if husbands do what they're supposed to, wives will gladly submit. The problem is that men often drop the ball, and the wife feels she needs to do the husband's job, too.

2.  (v. 23) and let the wife see that she respects her husband

Men need respect from their wives. It is the air they breathe. It is where men find their value.

Husbands

1.  (v. 25)Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Just as men need respect, women need love. Jesus gave His life for the church. If a husband truly loves like this, he will put his wife's needs ahead of his own. To define "love" see 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. 

2.  (v. 28) husbands should love their wives as their own bodies (Take care of)

Paul writes that as a man takes care of his body (feeds, clothes, protects himself) he should take care of his wife.

The problem is that when one person fails to do what they're supposed to, the system breaks down. "Why should I submit if he doesn't take care of things?" or "Why should I love her if she doesn't show me respect?" It is a "vicious cycle."

    The good news is that if both people commit to live like this, it will produce a self-sustaining "virtuous cycle" that will lead to the type of fulfilling marriage you crave.

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