3 Wins for Staying Married

Is there such a thing as a great marriage?  Is it possible?  Absolutely! I say that strongly because the God who created man and woman is the God who created marriage. I have been married for forty years now, and I know that some of those years were just hard work to stay together. But after it is all said and done, a long lasting marriage will give you a lot more rewards than one after only a few (or fifteen!) years.

But great marriages are not magic. They are not mysterious.  They are not one in a million.They are the result doing marriage God’s way.

God’s way hinges on 3 things:

1. A Husband and wife are committed to God.

The marriage that God blesses has at its core a commitment to the Lord. It is like the compass for the couple, guard rails for traveling through a perverted world.

Deuteronomy 7:9 You know, therefore, that the Lord your God, He is God, the faithful God, who keeps His covenant of His lovingkindness to a thousand generations to those who love Him and keep His commandments.

The smartest thing a couple can do is serve God with a whole heart.

2. Wives that respect their husbands.

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. [Ephesians 5:22 NASB]

God puts this in the Bible before he tells the husband to love his wife. Maybe because we husbands need this! We men are not like you ladies. We want to conquer, win, gain ground. Which means we fail at intervals on the way.  Someone has to be our cheerleader. Our main cheerleader needs to be our wife.

3. Husbands that love their wives.

[Ephesians 5:28-29 NASB] So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.

Loving your wife is the best thing you can do for yourself!  If you cherish your wife, she will put up with you. Our wives need us to love and cherish them.  That can mean different things to different women.  How does your wife want you to show love to her?   How would she think you are doing?   What actions can you take?

Keep working on your marriage, and you will see incredible blessings come to your house!