Four Ways to Love Your Lady

Having just passed Valentine’s Day, I thought I would share some wisdom on how to get along with your wife.  Hopefully, you got her what she wanted-not just what you wanted to give her. Hopefully, it was romantic and not too practical! I always say, if she wants flowers, and you got her a vacuum cleaner, don’t be surprised if she was mad! It might be practical, but it sure isn’t romance!

Not understanding women is a common place for jokes.  Even though men just don’t “get” the way women think or feel, God has a simple plan, that if a man will do, she will think he is awesome. 

-      1.  Cherish her.  So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, [Eph 5:28-29 NASB].  Treat her as valuable.  She is a treasure to you.  The more you love her, the more she will put up with you! You cannot lose by  treasuring her.

-      2. Protect her. She wants to feel protected.  Who is watching out financially for her, planning the future? It should be her man.  Lead with vision and goals.

-       3. Provide for her. 

“But if anyone does not provide for his own household and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and I worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Tim 5:8   

Ladies, if the guy you are dating is 30 with no job and living with his mom….. He is someone else’s guy! You deserve better.

-      4. Listen to her. Women want to feel understood. Make them feel understood. 

1 Peter 3:7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 

Invest in real conversations. Give her honor.  Don’t treat her like another man. Open the doors for her. Pay the check. If you do these things, you have an excellent chance of having a woman love you the rest of your life!