Keeping Love in Your Marriage - A Message To Husbands

Have you heard these sayings about marriage?

  • A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
  • There are two times when a man doesn't understand a woman: before marriage & after.

Ah yes, marriage. A thing made in heaven.  It can either be like beautiful music or like thunder and lightening. Things can be ok, not ok, really good or really bad.  

Thankfully, God has made a way for marriage to be good because it is an extremely important covenant to God. Think of it this way, marriage is the only agreement on earth that God says represents His relationship with his people. People regularly destroy their marriages because they do not adapt their relationship to God’s design. That is, we adapt to God's plan; we form and mold our marriage to His design. If you kind of make it up as you go, you fail to get the detailed plan of where the landmines are in marriage.

"So, where are the examples of a good marriage?" You might ask. Our eyes are turned towards Jesus Christ and His Church

Ephesians 5:25;28-29 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it... (28) So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourished and cherished it, even as the Lord the church:

Marriage is the only picture on earth that is created to display the relationship of Christ and His Church. Jesus is the Groom, and the Church is the Bride. The Bride follows Christ because no one else has laid down His life for her. Do you hear that, husbands?  Our wives should follow us, not because we are the strongest, smartest, or manliest, but because they are overwhelmed with how we care for them.

Alexander, Caesar, Charlemagne, and I have founded empires. But on what did we rest the creation of our genius? Upon force. Jesus Christ founded His empire upon love; and at this hour millions of men would die for Him. –Napoleon

Love and honor hold the marriage together. We know if guilt is the only thing that holds the marriage together, we are in trouble.  Marriage has got to be built on God’s plan and not according to sitcoms, other families, or the latest magazine story. Build your marriage according to His Word.